"It's your fault... You are to be blamed... It's all because of you!!!"
"You make the same mistakes over and over again!!"
"You never learn from your mistakes!!!"

Have you ever been in this situation? I mean for most of the time?

It felt bad and feeling worthless, useless and very, very bad... A big boulder hitting on one person...

When all fingers are pointing at you, it is obvious that one particular person is being punished. It seems wrong to express your emotions to others when being in this situation. One really wants to runaway as far as one can run and let everybody win by getting oneself guilty and punished for whatever reasons that maybe...

Yes, that one person knows the story very well, and that one person hides it well not to even let others close to that one person to know what actually happened... That one person has no one to turn to... but weep and cry by oneself without letting others share the pain... and the One and Only Allah Knows what's bothering oneself... praying that all the things that happened will eventually settle down and everybody's happy... sacrificing one's happiness for the sake of others. Have the others noticed how one has made sacrifices, to one's family, to one's brothers and sisters, to one's best friends, to one's bosses at work?

All that one needs is love and care from those that one loves and cares. Going to the trouble of getting one's sister's children to be able to get diapers, milk for the infants, pay for the maid, pay for the car fuel, the house and so on... For the ones that he/she loves, one sacrificed everything and not a single cent was returned, but one knows for sure that one's sister loves and cares for one's well being... Helping one's brother to pay for the car maintenance, loans and so on... It is the sacrifice that was being made for care and love of siblings..

However, what one gets from friends are different from what family loves and cares... instead, all one get is being blamed and asked to change most of the time.... It sure turned one to be more depressed as all looked into the bad things, ignoring the good things in one person. As one may say, people will not remember all the good things that one did, but will never forget one biggest bad mistake that one did...

One has to be patient....

experiences.....

As most people would agree, experience is one of the best teachers... Well, I would agree to that too..not in an academic sense.. but perhaps more towards the emotional part of one's life.
Went for umrah a few years ago, it made me realize that there's something hidden within the journey and ibadah that we performed. I really missed those moments, being there, it felt so calm and i can feel the love around...especially with all the pilgrims from all over the world...our brothers and sisters...

Used vs Loved

Something good to read... and think about....

USED vs LOVED

While a man was polishing his new car,

his 4 yr old son picked up a stone

and scratched lines on the side of the car.

In anger, the man took the child's hand

and hit it many times not realizing

he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers

due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father.....

with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'

The man was so hurt and speechless;

he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.

Devastated by his own actions......

sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;

the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.

The next day that man committed suicide. . .

Anger and Love have no limits;

choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely

life & remember this:

Things are to be used and people are to be loved.

The problem in today's world is

that people are used while things are loved.

Let's try always to keep this thought in mind:

Things are to be used,

People are to be loved.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character;

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

I'm glad a friend forwarded this to me as a reminder..

I hope you have a good day no matter what problems you may face

it's the only day you'll have before it's over.

God bless.