Habit..???

Have you ever been in a situation where there will be somebody in your circle of friends or relatives who always want to ‘control’ your every move? Always keeping an eye on you and trying to make rules by giving lots of don’ts either spoken or by actions with one of the five senses..

I remembered that I’ve read an article by one of the motivational expert which mentioned about one who thinks that he/she cares about somebody but in fact he/she is just a nuisance and just too much of a busy body… Yup, that’s right.. “Kadang-kadang kita rasa kita prihatin pada orang lain, sebenarnya orang akan nampak kita ‘mengada-ngada’ dan ‘ter-over’ pulak. Rimas jugak dibuatnya..”

It seems too much when someone just simply say things that he/she thought might make a good ‘joke’ to cheer somebody up but it isn’t.. and in fact he/she has actually hurt somebody’s feelings by trying to ‘fix’ things as he/she pleases.. Will that do good to anyone?

Sometimes being ‘passive’ towards ones jokes may mean nothing to somebody but most of the time if the person who has been too ‘dormant’ towards one’s unnecessary jokes, might ‘erupt’ like a big volcanic explosion.. if that person could not handle those jokes anymore. Who is to be blamed for all that? I’m sure that person who makes those jokes would simply say things to ‘save’ him/herself and doesn’t want to make a ‘fool’ of him/herself. So, keep those words ‘unspoken’, or otherwise, people don’t want to get ‘fooled’ by those ‘jokers’.

I have always been reminding myself not to talk too much as I am not much of a talker.. but I will only talk when I need to talk.. Sometimes being a reserved person, helps one to be a better thinker and speak when necessary. The ideas will be more original and not of a ‘nonsense’ kind of issues. However, it does not mean that all ideas will be accepted. Usually those who speak the most will want EVERYBODY to listen to his/her ideas and try to manipulate other people’s ideas. That makes a person wanting to be a boss and wants others to accept and recognise that he/she is able to lead.. well, in an ‘instructive’ kind of way of being bossy. Not all will be fond of that kind of ‘intelligence’.

It is surprising that when one is given the authority to lead, he/she would tend to ‘boss’ people around by making people do things for him/her, even to the extreme of doing him/her a favour which is not supposed to be in one’s line of duty.. just for the sake of not wanting that person to say bad things.. Who’s going to pay for that ‘extra’ job? I just wonder… I guess if one is already used to ask people to do things for him/her, it becomes a ‘habit’ that he/she cannot live without and it sometimes comes from how that person was brought up.. hmm… maybe those who has been staying in a well-off mansion for many years or perhaps those who pays people to do everything for them for so many years and got used to it like a common custom. LoL..

With all these happening to someone everyday, it is just so unpleasant and that one gets too stressed out when somebody is trying to ‘help’ someone by getting involved in someone’s personal choice or relationship. This is wayyyy tooo much… a person who is ‘busy body’ and a ‘know how’ !!! Oh no!! This shouldn’t be happening…. But it does happen…

Patience...

It just bothers me why people choose to make friends with people who are really attractive, rich and popular... Hmm maybe people just want to be in their shoes after all. Does that make a person happy?

The same goes in a relationship... guys would most probably choose ladies who are gorgeously attractive physically with the 'supermodel' facial features, with smooth skin.... they will try to change the ladies into what they want them to be.. no matter what.. It's very normal for that to happen these days as what people want is being recognised and respected by others.

If a guy goes out with his partner he would want other people to see that there is a beautiful young lady beside him. That is just the trend. No one wants to date a lady who is not physically attractive to a guy. Just a thought... would it be a usual trend these days that a guy will marry only those who is physically very attractive... eventhough an 'unattractive' lady has shown her real true feelings towards him? Hmmm....

I have many friends who are very attractive physically, but it seems like there's something is missing from each and everyone of them.. that is, they are not dating any guy till now. It seems odd to being not asked out by any guy, though they are working as professionals in the field that they are working and financially very stable. Perhaps it is the guys who do not want them to be 'wives', though they are always ready if someone proposed to marry them at anytime. Many has even suggested to their parents and siblings to find them a suitable guy and agreed for arranged marriage. Who wants those these days? I seriously think that not many guys would want arranged marriage unless they know who they are marrying to. It is a pity that these lovely ladies are not being given a chance to go out on dates and find their partner who will love them for who they are and not for what they have.

Hmm.... lots of questions in my mind.... but I just have to be patient for all the answers...

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