Have you ever been in a situation where there will be somebody in your circle of friends or relatives who always want to ‘control’ your every move? Always keeping an eye on you and trying to make rules by giving lots of don’ts either spoken or by actions with one of the five senses..
I remembered that I’ve read an article by one of the motivational expert which mentioned about one who thinks that he/she cares about somebody but in fact he/she is just a nuisance and just too much of a busy body… Yup, that’s right.. “Kadang-kadang kita rasa kita prihatin pada orang lain, sebenarnya orang akan nampak kita ‘mengada-ngada’ dan ‘ter-over’ pulak. Rimas jugak dibuatnya..”
It seems too much when someone just simply say things that he/she thought might make a good ‘joke’ to cheer somebody up but it isn’t.. and in fact he/she has actually hurt somebody’s feelings by trying to ‘fix’ things as he/she pleases.. Will that do good to anyone?
Sometimes being ‘passive’ towards ones jokes may mean nothing to somebody but most of the time if the person who has been too ‘dormant’ towards one’s unnecessary jokes, might ‘erupt’ like a big volcanic explosion.. if that person could not handle those jokes anymore. Who is to be blamed for all that? I’m sure that person who makes those jokes would simply say things to ‘save’ him/herself and doesn’t want to make a ‘fool’ of him/herself. So, keep those words ‘unspoken’, or otherwise, people don’t want to get ‘fooled’ by those ‘jokers’.
I have always been reminding myself not to talk too much as I am not much of a talker.. but I will only talk when I need to talk.. Sometimes being a reserved person, helps one to be a better thinker and speak when necessary. The ideas will be more original and not of a ‘nonsense’ kind of issues. However, it does not mean that all ideas will be accepted. Usually those who speak the most will want EVERYBODY to listen to his/her ideas and try to manipulate other people’s ideas. That makes a person wanting to be a boss and wants others to accept and recognise that he/she is able to lead.. well, in an ‘instructive’ kind of way of being bossy. Not all will be fond of that kind of ‘intelligence’.
It is surprising that when one is given the authority to lead, he/she would tend to ‘boss’ people around by making people do things for him/her, even to the extreme of doing him/her a favour which is not supposed to be in one’s line of duty.. just for the sake of not wanting that person to say bad things.. Who’s going to pay for that ‘extra’ job? I just wonder… I guess if one is already used to ask people to do things for him/her, it becomes a ‘habit’ that he/she cannot live without and it sometimes comes from how that person was brought up.. hmm… maybe those who has been staying in a well-off mansion for many years or perhaps those who pays people to do everything for them for so many years and got used to it like a common custom. LoL..
With all these happening to someone everyday, it is just so unpleasant and that one gets too stressed out when somebody is trying to ‘help’ someone by getting involved in someone’s personal choice or relationship. This is wayyyy tooo much… a person who is ‘busy body’ and a ‘know how’ !!! Oh no!! This shouldn’t be happening…. But it does happen…